How to host a perfect Friendsgiving
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How to host a perfect Friendsgiving

Buy lots booze, embrace the mess and make sure you have 4 friends and iPhone to help carve the turkey, finds reporter Lauren Pelley

SIDEBAR

So what’s the cost?

Vegetables, herbs, potatoes, and other groceries: $100

13-pound turkey: $50

3 bottles of wine, variety of beer and cider: $80

TOTAL: $230.00

Friendsgiving etiquette

For many people hosting Friendsgiving this year, it could be one of their first times throwing a dinner party. So what are the etiquette rules that come with hosting a big group event? Etiquette expert Karen Cleveland breaks it down.

Be inclusive

Let’s face it: People in their 20s and 30s love to Instagram every detail of their lives. But Cleveland says Friendsgiving might be a time to put down your phone. “Unless it’s a ‘more the merrier’ drop-in thing, I’d try not to post the plans or share photos online,” she says — that way no one feels left out of the party.

Send proper invites

Invitations set the tone for the dinner, so make sure you know what vibe you’re going for. “If you’re hosting a formal affair with a candlelit table and pressed napkins, you might want a formal, handwritten invite,” says Cleveland. “If you just want a casual gathering with friends, just call them up.”

Arrange your guests

“If you’re inviting people who haven’t spent a lot of time together, like coworkers or people who haven’t mixed, you might want to consider place cards,” says Cleveland. That way, you can keep conversation flowing by peppering the chatty, social guests throughout your table.

Follow pot luck protocol

Guests always ask if they can bring something. If you’re doing a pot luck, don’t mandate specific dishes, Cleveland says. But do be directive — like asking for a side dish of vegetables, or something starchy. And, of course, be aware of any dietary restrictions or allergies.

Keep it classy

Even if you’re the type of friends who typically grab Chinese takeout and use pizza boxes as plates, Friendsgiving can be a good chance to class it up. “Set a proper table, have some flowers — or if that’s not your jam, skip the place card settings and don’t make it overly formal,” Cleveland says. “But go full on, if you can — why not?”

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Looking around my Friendsgiving table on Friday, I was filled with sheer joy.

Even though the whole thing was a bit of a mess.

Nine of us were sitting around a plastic table, relocated from my backyard and draped with a new white tablecloth that was covered in creases after coming straight from its packaging. Each guest’s place setting contained the odds and ends of different cutlery sets and a few mismatched plates. Once the turkey was (finally) ready, cutting it became a four-person fiasco with me reading directions off an iPhone, while others inspected the meat and helped tear off the seemingly superglued thighs. Two people were stuck sitting on a piano bench. I’m pretty sure the food was cold.

But who cares, right? We had plenty of wine, great conversation, and no one got food poisoning. It had all the magic of Thanksgiving, but with friends instead of family — a mix of my university friends, coworkers, and the last-minute addition of my younger brother. We discussed politics, vented about our jobs, and clinked glasses in a toast to the season.

And that’s what Friendsgiving is all about. The food — which included garlic mashed potatoes and roasted carrots, in my case — is just a bonus.

In recent years, this holiday of sorts has grown in popularity. Thirtysomethings are driving the trend, according to a survey from the social app Skout, which found 18 per cent of people between 30 and 39 plan on celebrating Thanksgiving with friends this year — along with 11 per cent of people 18 to 29.

For some, it’s a nice addition to the traditional family celebration. For others, including those who can’t get home for the holidays or who don’t have a tight-knit family, it’s the real deal.

When I told my boyfriend we were hosting a Friendsgiving dinner — with two weeks notice — he didn’t skip a beat:

“So that means we get to have turkey ... twice?” he said.

It sure did. But it also meant a massive grocery trip and a hunt for a fresh turkey at multiple shops in the city. I wrongly assumed it was already turkey season, but with Thanksgiving still a week away, frozen was the only option at most grocery stores. (My boyfriend ended up calling a butcher shop in Kensington Market, and they kindly put a whole fresh one on hold, rather than chopping it up into separate parts. Crisis averted.)

In the end, it also meant a solid six hours in the kitchen, with this turkey rookie at the helm.

I frantically texted my Thanksgiving-expert mother through the whole process. Why does the turkey look brown already? How long should I leave it in the oven? Why aren’t there more drippings? And finally: Here’s a photo of the bird — does this, uh, look right to you?

“Not to alarm you,” my mother replied. “But that bird doesn’t look done to me.”

Back in she went, with a meat thermometer in the thigh, until the temperature hit the magic number: 180 F.

When we finally carved open the stuffing-filled bird, I felt a wave of relief. The dark meat looked dark, and the white meat looked white. The potatoes were adequately mashed. The vegetables were roasted.

All was right in the world — and it was finally time to eat.

“That was the best Friendsgiving ever,” one friend said later.

And you know what? Even with the turkey troubles, cobbled-together place settings, and around 50 plates, bowls and utensils to clean the next day — it really was.

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